Nothing like refreshing your email inbox bright and early Monday morning, and seeing the ever-so-dreaded + overused:
“We regret to inform you, you did not get the job.”
Just going to throw this out there, but for every job rejection letter you receive, a bottle of wine should simultaneously be delivered to you. For, you know, the sting of rejection.
So here’s the thing. I graduated college in June. I got a bachelor’s degree in Psychology. I interned while I was completing my degree. And the majority of my job experience came from a company I worked for for over six years. Not to toot my own horn but like.. I got sh*t done. Right? RIGHT?!?!
Yeah.. maybe. But while I was getting sh*t done, so were many of my other fellow twenty somethings. And having a degree nowadays means something but doesn’t mean everything. And this is really important to remember.
So it’s now October. *FREAKING BATS*. And my web browser is always defaulted on indeed.com and my LinkedIn is getting more attention than whatever the Kardashians are doing these days. But, I’m still jobless. In San Francisco. The city of opportunities and individuality. And also the city where it costs an arm and a leg to afford a closet on 8th street each month.
Shorter version: it ain’t that easy. And there’s a lot of pressure. But I’m here as a struggling millennial to tell you it will only go up from here. And that even though it may take more time than you expected, you will land a job you love.
But in the meantime, grab a glass of wine, keep refreshing that inbox, and let me explain some tips for when you get that job rejection letter:
DON’T BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF
Ah, yes. The ever-so-cliche and easier-said-than-done phrase. I know you’ve heard it before but let me tell you again: don’t be so hard on yourself. This has probably been the hardest struggle for me throughout this whole job searching/rejection season. But after talking to family + friends, reading about other people’s struggles finding jobs, and really digging deep and being realistic, I found I was being too hard on myself. Overall, I would scale my self-esteem at ~very low~. It is something I have to work at constantly, but rejection letter after rejection letter makes it a whole lot harder. When I’m feeling the most down in these moments, I really have to be realistic and talk myself out of it. One, it is competitive as *f* out there. Two, I can always do more and this is a great learning moment. And three, I know I’m a great worker, so.. ya know.. it’s actually ~their~ loss.
LEARN FROM IT
Getting rejected from anything is always a great time to be vulnerable and re-evaluate. Maybe your resume isn’t the best it could be, and maybe you are learning that sometimes you need to be stage 5 clinger and start following up with job opportunities, instead of quietly waiting for them to contact you. This is also a great time to ask for advice. The first people I always go to? My parents. They have been exactly where I am, and know me better than anyone else. Plus, mom’s are always right. So when my mom tells me to call and follow up, you best believe I’m going to call and follow up. I also am super lucky to live with my 2 friends that are some badass workers. They both hold some pretty incredible job titles, so I jumped on the opportunity to have them give me some resume advice because.. #goals.
A DIFFERENT DIRECTION
Right after I graduated, my heart was set on working in a hospital. I just wanted a job where I could help people, and I knew a hospital setting would solve that passion. But, I did not have any medical job experience, and that is where the bulk of my rejection letters came from. If I could go back, getting an internship within a hospital is absolutely the route I would do while in school. But, hindsight is always 20/20. After about ~twenty~ hospital jobs telling me I did not have enough experience, I went with plan B. My other passion, is social media. And although I love a good scroll sesh for a couple hours on Instagram, I love promoting and marketing even more. I was lucky enough to take over my best friend’s social media sites when we did our Taylor Swift campaign (see: WE MET TAYLOR SWIFT), and also while she was under/recovering after her double lung transplant. Social media work has always come natural to me, and now that I’m living in San Francisco, it is the perfect opportunity to jump on this passion! So, although it may not be your original plan, you may find changing your direction a bit will lead you to more opportunities that you could fall equally in love with.
I am finally getting some call backs and interviews out here in the golden city, and that has little to do with the changes I’ve made in my resume and more to do with networking. It’s crazy competitive out there, and although you can have a resume that is filled with skills and accomplishments, sometimes, it’s just more about knowing the right people. In these moments, never be afraid to ask for help. And, while you are at the local coffee shop tweaking your cover letter, start a conversation with the person next to you. You never know where it can lead.
Rejection is NEVER easy. But, it always seems to land me exactly where I belong. I am with you, my fellow 20somethings. Struggling to find a job but keeping my optimism and resume in perfect condition.
We got this,